In Part One; “Before You Hire a Psychic”, I discussed the ways you can find an ethical and accurate Medium or Psychic and how to avoid getting taken advantage of. But what if you do find yourself in a situation where your gut is telling you that something isn’t right? How can you be sure?
Remember, you should never feel scared after a reading and you should never be forced to come back for additional services that will cost you extra money. Even if you receive answers you did not want to hear, you should walk away from a session feeling inspired, given information that helps facilitate healing or like you had a connection to your loved ones in Spirit. You may even receive a prediction or two, but this, of course, depends on the type of reading you choose.
A Medium reading is where the Medium connects with your loved ones who have passed away and are in Spirit. Every Medium works differently, but if you are receiving validations and messages that make sense to you, then you are with an authentic Medium. There can be times when some of the details you receive will not make sense and that’s okay, as long as most of the information being presented in your reading resonates with you. If this is your first reading, your nerves might be in the way. This can make it hard to remember details. But rest assured that messages from Spirit are about love, never about fear. Once in a while you may receive a warning, but you should feel empowered by that information, not afraid. So if you start receiving information that makes you feel scared, speak up and stop the reading. Walk away if you need to.
I do want to mention that if you have experienced a recent loss, most Mediums recommend to wait anywhere from three to six months before scheduling a reading. There are many schools of thought for this, but I personally believe that it’s best to walk through your grief journey a little first. No matter how prepared we are for the passing of a loved one, we can still experience shock for many weeks to months after a death, and this can negatively impact the reading.
Another thing to keep in mind is that many Mediums do not guarantee that they will connect with a certain loved one in Spirit. They may have this listed on their website or Terms and Conditions. This means that if Aunt Sue shows up instead of Dad, the Medium is honoring Spirit by allowing the experience. This does not mean you are with a bad Medium! Who knows, Aunt Sue may have an important message for you. However, if you are feeling like the Medium is not connecting with any of your loved ones in Spirit, you can ask to stop the reading. This situation is rare, but it can happen. Ethical Mediums will know within minutes of the reading if they are not connecting and will usually offer a refund and end the session.
One way to tell if you are being taken advantage of during your reading is if the Medium is asking a lot of leading questions. For example, they may ask, “What did Aunt Sue look like?” And then say, “Oh I see that!”. A good Medium will make statements instead. They may say something like, “It looks like Aunt Sue had brown, straight hair and I see that she was slender. Does this make sense?”. Do you see the difference in the approach? One is asking a leading question, while the other is validating a statement. Again, every Medium works differently, so there may be variations of style, but it can be a red flag if you notice the Medium asking too many leading questions.
Another situation that can happen is that an unethical Medium may try to keep you coming back to see them. I don’t mean by informing their clients of additional services they offer, such as an upcoming class or event. This scenario would be when a Medium entices you into hiring them again using fear tactics. They may tell you that a loved one is trapped between worlds or that your loved one is not at peace on the other side, but they can help while emptying out your bank account. An ethical Medium will never do that to you. If you find yourself in a situation like that, just walk away. You may even wish to report them to your local law enforcement agency.
The best way to protect yourself from an unethical Medium is to arm yourself with as much information as possible. Watch how different Mediums work and see which style resonates with you. When you receive a Medium reading, you should feel like you had a connection with Spirit and that most of the information makes sense. Medium readings are meant to be healing, helping you feel a sense of love, connection and peace, never fear.
In part three, we will look at how you can recognize when a Reader is trying to take advantage of you during a Psychic or Animal Communication Reading.
Cate Coffelt is an award winning Evidential Medium and Psychic and can be reached at www.mediumcate.com
Author: Cate Coffelt https://bestmericanpsychics.com/advisor/cate-coffelt