Relationships: Illusional Change versus True Spiritual Growth

This article refers to the common theme of our personal and intimate relationships that we form with others.

In this time of many changes, as individuals are exploring who they truly are, the topic of relationships is an interesting one because of the diversity that we face as souls set themselves free to find their authentic selves.

Relationships are a learning ground and as well as a playground, and the most personal relationships are a major part in our school of life as an experience as a human being.  This is where the greatest growth can be achieved, however it is also where the greatest illusion of growth can also be achieved.

The best way to explain this is to look at an example of growth and an example of the illusion of growth.


This is achieved when a person who has achieved a strong sense of self awareness, enters a relationship, and therefore is open enough to identify any common patterns that emerge, it may be things such as self-sabotage, insecurity, jealousy, giving too much, or becoming controlling.  There are many examples of this.

The key is to look at the self, look at your own responses and reactions, and to identify whether this behaviour is a common thread in your journey, and personal relationships.  If you identify your responses as something that you always do, then it is time to go within and to explore the very foundations of where this pattern developed.

An excellent example is that of the narcissist/empath attraction which has been identified as quite common, yet it is more than just that because there are so many variations of both empath and narcissist, and so many unique and individual life experiences, that to put a person in a box like that will not always provide the answers that they seek.

The important thing is that through going within and locating and identifying these patterns within your psyche and subconscious, you can then heal those responses, which clears out the mental, emotional and energetic  clutter to allow your light of your soul truth to shine!

When this is accomplished, you may feel that the relationship no longer fits you, or you may even see your partner as they are, and not who you want them to be, or you may see them as exactly who you really want after all!

“With True Personal and Spiritual Growth, the changes come from within you, and not from your reactions to your partner”.


Have you ever known someone who seems to change their personality, in response to whomever they are in a relationship with at the time?

Now to be fair we all know that our relationships will have an influence over us, however for an individual who has experienced true growth, you will find that they pretty much remain similar regardless of who they are with. Yes, there will be compromise, and subtle changes, but the person will have established their own boundaries, through their own self-awareness and healthy needs, and will feel a lot more secure in who they are. (If, of course, there is more growth to be had, that person will be continuing the path of seeking inner wisdom and healing).

The difference is in an illusion situation is that you “take on the energy of the other person and subconsciously adapt to that”.  This in turn takes you away from yourself, so when the relationship ends, you are left with a hollow feeling inside and then often will pursue another relationship to fill the void.

We all want to be loved, and to feel secure, however whenever you find yourself single, and you continue to feel hollow over time, then another person’s energy will always fill that void, for a while; but it is not a permanent solution. And you will find your patterns repeat themselves.

“Hollow feelings of emptiness are not the same as loneliness, hollow feelings run far deeper than just being alone, and come from a place deep within you, and your life experiences”. 

You may have seen people be boisterous in one relationship, yet quieter and demurer in another. People will say “oh that person is just what he/she needed to settle them down”.

Yes, that can be the case, but the point is, is that once boisterous but now demure person being truly authentic, or is the sense of having that void filled feeding a continuing co-dependency pattern?  And is that new personality just an act to hide the insecurities that have not been identified and an act to be something that their partner wants?

For example, you often see a person not treat another well in one relationship yet be a puppy dog to their partner in another relationship.  How many of you have treated a person so well, but not had it reciprocated, then are heart broken when you see that person go into another relationship, and they treat that person better, and seem to be happy?

The illusion is, in fact, the new dynamic being played out. For example, it may mean that your ex-partner needs a strong person that mimics a mother or father figure, who puts them in their place, so they respond to that, as they would have as a child, and their new partner needs to feel authoritative in order to feel secure, so whilst it appears to be working for them, there, in fact, has been no true growth whatsoever, it is a mere illusion.

Your personal illusion in this instance to be healed, would be to ask yourself why you keep doing this, why you keep being attracted to the same kind of person, and the illusion to be broken through is, for you to not give so much, and to look at why you do. Then you are on a true path of growth, that is far richer than an illusion of a great relationship that your ex has created in order to feel safe and not face their own soul truths.

Becoming trapped into thinking about your ex-partner’s behaviour will keep you stuck in their illusion of which they have managed to cover up by a relationship that seemingly works on the surface but, through a co-dependent dynamic, hides their insecurities.

The way through to the Soul is through balance, so you see an illusion co-dependent relationship is to see it as a set of scales; one aspect is heavier than the other, so the other must give more energy in order to prop things up and create the illusion of balance.  A healthy relationship is one where two souls have found most of the balance, within themselves first, as an individual authentic soul and therefore one soul compliments the other.  The balance of energy and power is shared, and one is not dominant over the other.

This does not mean that an authentic soul is perfect, it simply means they know who they are, and have accepted all aspects of themselves, even their shadow self, and have found love of the self and wholeness through healing and self-acceptance. And, through that awareness, no longer feel empty or hollow, even without a relationship.

We are all on a path of growth, our patterns teach us what needs attention and healing and what is lacking.  Remember, too, to look for the achievement of growth and reward yourself and smile and be happy at how far that you have come!

Author: ©Debra Sinclair Psychic Medium Empath 2021

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Empathy and Compassion with Healthy Boundaries

The question is how do we move beyond our own ego to show compassion when we have determined new boundaries when a relationship or friendship changes?

Change comes about through our path of personal growth. When we grow beyond the learnt perception of ourselves and therefore become more truly self-aware, we become more conscious of our authentic needs and more sensitive to what is no longer working for us.

These changes affect our friendships and relationships, there is no choice in that matter. What once suited you, no longer feels right or fits who you are.

Personal growth naturally brings about a change in our perception, and is accompanied by a new level of honesty, with ourselves first and foremost. The challenge lies in how to convey this to the other party in a compassionate and kind way. Because change can also make us feel like we are going a tad bit crazy too, and it is not comfortable bringing a new truth to the forefront, especially if the other person is likely to react badly!

The answer lies within the new boundaries that we set for ourselves in relation to another person. We must be compassionate and kind to ourselves first, be easy on ourselves when we feel fed up, angry, tired, or drained by another person, because your new boundaries cause a disruption to the energetic flow.

(Please see my blog titled The Inertia of Energy).

Now, here is the thing, the other person may not have the same conscious awareness that you do. The way they perceive things and receive things, can be by unconsciously acting out to get needs met by others.  (and we all can do this, not one of us is required to be perfect on this journey of life) This “acting out” often comes in the form of showing off, exaggerating things, and talking things up, or playing the victim, emotional manipulation, intimidation, being the bashful hero, or a martyr, passive/aggressive behaviour and the list goes on. 

(All of that is “Lower Third dimensional behaviour” by the way, but that is another blog).

Your new boundaries will be reflected in your change of reaction towards that person’s behaviour. For example, if you were always available to help that person, but now you realise that it is a waste of your time, you may not make yourself so available, or even not at all.

You may have reacted by trying to fix everything, or justifying yourself, defending yourself, and once you stop that, then that causes a change in the frequency of your energetic exchange and will, over time, play out into real life.

If you were drawn into a dynamic where you believed the other person’s lies, only to finally see through them, and you change your reaction, you have also broken the long-term energetic exchange, and this is seldom comfortable.

The key is subtlety – and change of perspective. For example, it is easy once we outgrow a situation to become angry or resentful, however it is important that we look at our new perspective with compassion, for ourselves first, and then when ready to, the other person’s view as well.

Now this can be a big challenge, because as in all life transitions, our own personal issues can also appear from our subconscious to be recognised, accepted, and healed. Self-awareness will help with recognising what has come up for you.

Here is where we move beyond ego and into compassion. To begin this process; we must consciously state that compassion is what we wish to achieve. Your goal is to achieve and maintain a higher state of compassion, awareness, and balance. 

Once we commence this process the rest will take care of itself. If we have expected outcomes, then we may not always get the outcome that our ego thinks is right. However, once we move into and learn to hold within, a true higher level of compassion, not much else really matters, and any expectations, and ego all melt away.  We get to enjoy being, and feeling calm, centered, in the present moment.

Energetic boundaries are a step further and I touch on this subject in my blog titled Feeling Energy and Creating Energetic Boundaries.

Author: Debra Sinclair

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Energetic Inertia & Relationships

Inertia is defined as “a property of matter or energy by which it continues in its existing state of rest or uniform motion unless that state is changed by an external force” ….

Every interaction, action, and reaction between people over time establishes a dynamic where, for example, one is often dominant over the other. This dynamic creates an energy all its own.  This is the energy that stays set in the background and forms the very basis behind the relationship, and therefore people become so lost and stuck in such relationships. Both the dominant and the submissive become addicted or co-dependent.

“This energy is often mistaken for Soulmate energy, as it is often intense”.

The energy created from a relationship dynamic and the interactions with another person, for instance, will continue that way even after the relationship has ended. For example, if you were with a very manipulative partner and you found yourself trapped into this manipulation, you will have found the relationship in time to end up being extremely toxic, and you also will have found that you lost a large part of yourself in this. 

Recovery from this type of scenario can take a long time, however as more and more of us become aware of the fact that we are all energy, we will all then see when our energy has been diminished or stolen, by another person in order to prop themself up, and so we can all learn how to shorten our recovery time and accelerate our Spiritual and personal growth, to move on to happier things.

The manipulator will feel energised from having controlled you, and even though you may have broken free from them, it is important to understand that you must now consciously begin the healing process to grow beyond, not only this relationship, but to also grow beyond this energetic dynamic and raise your vibration. 

The reason I mention that it must be a conscious effort, is because we must then increase our awareness and our understanding of the pitfalls of that relationship, how you got drawn into it, how your past experiences and upbringing is what created a similar energetic dynamic, and this energy is what attracted you to this person in the first instance.  Also important is how you felt in the first attraction, and how that attraction became a mere illusion. We then must also look for the answers and solutions of how to grow beyond such a dynamic.

This process begins with our own self-awareness, looking at ourselves, to critique ourselves and be very honest with ourselves and our contribution to such a relationship.  Once we identify and then take responsibility for our side of things then we can look at ways of which to grow and change and move to a higher path.

“It is so important to keep bringing conscious awareness back to the self when in healing and growth mode, it is too easy to keep casting our awareness back to the other person, if we keep reverting our awareness back to them, we remain stuck”.

The more sensitive that you are the more you will feel this energy and, unless very aware, it can be very confusing. Your logical mind tells you that you have moved on, yet you still feel drawn back to this person, which makes no sense as you know that the person is not good for you.

This is because the inertia of the energy is still behaving in the same pattern. Like waves on a beach, it withdraws back and then moves forth again trying to make an imprint on your energy.

So, the question is, how do we stop this energy from doing this? The self-awareness tool is the secret to this. You consciously choose to change your reaction to that energy. The energy is attracted to your vibration formed in the old dynamic so therefore being aware and making a conscious choice to do anything other than the way you would have previously reacted, causes a distortion in the energetic flow.

There is not a requirement to be perfect, you need to feel what you need to; however, the secret is your intention to advance your level of consciousness in the bigger picture. Intention is formed by being completely honest with yourself and your willingness to change and grow.

You must also be tenacious and persistent. You have learnt this pattern in your life, and this has now come to conscious awareness through your experience with the other person, but you must also realise that energy can also be persistent, especially if this is a lifelong pattern, so you may feel as though you have an inner and outer battle raging at times. Just when you think you are free of it; it will come back to test your resolve.

Much like a virus needing a host, the energy too needs hosts and if this is not present, in time it will fall away.  Your ex-partner will feel a disconnect, once this energy is forced to withdraw from yours and, unless he/she is ready to grow, they will simply repeat their pattern and find a new person to create that energy to feed off. You, however, by freeing yourself of that energetic dynamic means, you step into the realms of opportunity to consciously create the future that you desire.

Author: Debs Sinclair, Psychic Medium Clairvoyant 2021

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Crossing Over, From This World into the Spirit World

Crossing through the veil from this world to the next is one of the most misunderstood, controversial, and asked about phenomena that we, as humans, experience.

Those who have experienced Near-Death Experiences, what we commonly refer to as NDE’s, have stories, often very similar, where they say they have crossed through the veil then been called back to their bodies here on Earth.

Lisa Williams, world renowned Psychic Medium and Author, says, in her book, The Survival of the Soul, “Remarkably, and with few exceptions, people report experiences that closely match descriptions given by others who have also had NDE’s.”

Every Soul will make this transition at some time from this life into the Afterlife. Your Soul is powerful, and it knows what to do. It is also timeless and endless. It cannot be destroyed or lost. Your Soul is pure energy, and it oversees everything about both your living and your dying. As soon as your Soul leaves your body, it knows what to do.

Before you come to Earth, there is a plan for you at a Soul level, and this plan includes exit points.

Your Soul is attached to your physical body through a silver cord that provides an energetic connection. This is how it has been most experienced and described by those who have had out of body experiences, near death experiences, and astral travel experiences.

When you leave your body to cross over, the cord snaps, and you are released from your body. At this point, you can choose to move toward the veil in the direction of the White Light. Again, many describe this same experience when they have had a near-death experience and come back. Because it is a choice, some choose not to take this direction and end up in a place that is neither Earth nor the Afterlife, but a vortex of sorts. Usually, this is because they feel they have unfinished business with their time on Earth. These Souls become what we think of as “Ghosts.”

Those who move into the White Light are supported all the way by their Spirit Guides.

The Spirit World exists in another dimension and time. Those in the Spirit World can come very close to us when we connect with them, and, at the same time, they are actually in a different dimension of higher-vibrational frequency.

Your journey into the Spirit World begins with you traveling through a tunnel. It is not a dark tunnel; it is a tunnel of Light that would be blinding to your human eyes. You continue through the tunnel, pulled as if by a magnet closer and closer to the White Light.

You will be aware of loved ones around you and will be able to see them and touch them once you are out the other side of the tunnel.

One purpose of the White Light is to provide healing and clear the emotions of your passing. It is the first stage of healing preparing you for what is to come. More healing happens once you reach the Afterlife.

You don’t remember what it was like before you came to Earth or other times you have made this transition out of your body and into the Afterlife, but your Soul knows, and it will guide you safely. People experience fear before they die sometimes, but that fear disappears at the time of your crossing and is replaced with awareness.

Lisa Williams says, “It’s just like riding a bike, you never forget.” Remember, also, that you are returning, when you cross over, to a place you came from. Because of this, it will feel familiar to you.

Author: Michelle Barr

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Ancestral Clearing and Healing

Do you understand how deeply your Ancestors care about your life and are invested in your time on Earth?

Your Ancestors are just some of the non-physical support available to you, and it is important to understand how you can best work with them and allow them to support you.

I first started working with my Ancestors and my Ancestral Lineage when I was a Therapist. My specialty was Generational Dysfunction. I continued with this interest and passion when I moved out of therapy and into working as a Psychic, Medium, and Healer.

Your Ancestors’ ability to support you and help you through this life is profound. They can guide you and teach you in very practical and powerful ways. Imagine what strengths, gifts, talents, and traits flow through your Ancestral Lineage and through your bloodline. When you tap into this and allow yourself to receive these, you are able to be more of who you are.

Your Ancestral Line is a part of your Personal Power that runs through you and gives you the capabilities you need to be here and do the work you are here to do, the work you are made to do. The land your Ancestors stood on holds power for you, as well.

Become aware of this support and the calling within you to carry your lineage forward. When you agree to do this, you carry the Power of your entire line and can heal backward and forward 7 generations. Think of that! You can positively and profoundly affect and impact 14 generations in your bloodline.

You gain so much Power when you learn how to draw energy from your Ancestral Lineage. Many people have shut off all access to this, because of the clearing and healing that has not been done and the issues that remain unresolved and create continued pain and wounding.

When you learn how to work with your Ancestors through first Clearing and Healing and then through Reclamation and Assimilation, your world absolutely transforms.

Every generation is called to carry forward the Evolutionary trajectory of their Ancestral Heritage. It becomes their duty to make the best use of their Ancestral Blessings as they look to the future while healing what no longer serves them from the past. This healing addresses generational dysfunction, trauma, wounds, behaviors, limiting beliefs, resistance, toxic energetic patterns, and ways of being, doing, and having.

Understand that, as a Soul, you selected a specific family lineage. This lineage was chosen to provide tremendous opportunity for Spiritual Growth and Enlightenment. When you are able to break free from the limiting patterns of the past, it will allow your Ancestors to break free from their bonds, also.

You are able to connect with your Ancestors, heal what needs to be healed, reveal what needs to be revealed, and honor them with your own personal Spiritual practices. You can allow the Ancestral abilities and knowledge to flow through you when you clear the blocks you have put in place as a way to protect yourself.

This is a powerful step for you in moving forward, making peace with your past and paving a way for your better life and a better future for you and all those who come after you.

Author: Michelle Barr

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BAP 2021 Psychic of the Year Award Winner

Shay Parker’s Best American Psychics is pleased to award our 2021 Psychic of the Year Award to Nancy Smith. Nancy also won our Social Activism Award in 2020 as well as Psychic of the Week and Psychic of the Month a few times, so she is a repeat award winner!

Nancy is an accomplished psychic medium, teacher, akashic record reader and spirit artist, as well as author. She is a Featured Blogger for BAP and has been a regular guest on Metaphysical Minds. Nancy is active in the metaphysical community and has a passion for her work. In addition, she has her own internet radio show (Angelscapes with Nancy Smith airs Tuesdays at 8PM) where she offers her expertise on topics with the bonus of free readings to the public.

Best American Psychics is proud to have Nancy as a member. She is a willing team member and works extremely well with her peers. We know her to be a true professional and respect the effort she has put into continued training, hours of service, and personal spiritual growth in order to serve her clients to the best.

Nancy’s relationship and ability to connect with the Akashic Records brings a special skill and perspective to her work. She uses her mediumship and channeling to bring peace to her clients. Her spirit artist gifts are an added bonus and just another form of evidence for those struggling with loss. Sometimes it is difficult for us to believe that there is a true connection to the other side and that our loved ones are still with us. Nancy’s drawings help this process along, and therefore bring closure and healing to those stuck in grief.

If you are interested in any of her books, you can find them here:

Nancy has been with BAP since 2015 and has shown us every step of the way that she is a solid choice for Psychic of the Year!

You can find Nancy on our Immediate Readings page, on her radio program, and you can book a session with her through her profile page on the site. All her links are below.

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BAP 2021 Fabulous Feedback Award Winner

Folks, she has done it again! Deborah Livingston has won Shay Parker’s Best American Psychics’ 2021 Fabulous Feedback Award. Deborah consistently receives high praise and feedback from our clients. She is a fabulous evidential medium and has proven the existence of life after death to anyone that seeks and books a reading. Deborah has the honor of receiving several awards from our company, as her clients repeatedly let us know how she has affected them and their lives in a positive way. And, this year, she is deserving again.

This recent feedback came in and we pulled an excerpt from it to exhibit some of what we hear about Deborah:

“5 stars!!!The only thing better than a reading with Deb Livingston? A SECOND reading with Deb Livingston!First of all, her accuracy is spot on! And from what I understand of the way in which she works, the accuracy is due both to her gift in receiving the messages and her uncanny skill and ability to interpret the message as it applies to the individual. Both times I sat with her, I asked for an hour of her time, split between ‘medium reading’ and ‘life reading’. I love this combo! What makes it so special is that, at least for me, Deb was able to find links between my current life path and messages received from my loved ones in the spirit world.”

Deborah has spent years training and honing her natural gift with the top educators and professionals which accounts for her “uncanny skill and ability to interpret the message as it applies to the individual.” This is what continued education and training is all about and why Deborah is such a highly regarded professional in her field.

Deborah offers psychic and mediumship readings as well as life readings, spiritual assessments, and spiritual mentoring. In addition, she is a published author. She has made several radio and TV appearances. You can book a reading with Deborah and she can read for you at distance via phone.

We are pleased to, once again, offer this award to Deborah! Links for Deborah:

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BAP 2021 Social Activism Award Winner

Shay Parker’s Best American Psychics is proud to announce Cate Coffelt as our 2021 Social Activism Award Winner. Cate repeatedly demonstrates a generosity of spirit, donating her time, effort, and energy on pro-bono cases and readings. As a gifted psychic medium, Cate has repeatedly volunteered to be an Expert Guest on our monthly Facebook Livestream show, Metaphysical Minds. She freely gives her education, experience, and knowledge to our listening audience.

As a service to the community, Cate is a provider for two non-profit groups: Find Me and Helping Parents Heal. With Find Me she uses her intuitive skills to help locate missing persons or pinpoint circumstances around unsolved cases. With Helping Parents Heal, Cate is able to put her gifts to use in bringing peace and closure to parents when the unthinkable happens.

Cate is also an avid animal rescuer and donates her time and money, consistently throughout the year, to help animals in need. She is an animal communicator, so she is aware of the needs of our furry friends.

Always giving more than she receives, Cate is an inspiration to us all, and is a true role model, and this is why she has, once again, earned our Social Activism Award.

To learn more about Cate and her services, please visit one of the links below.

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Start the New Year Knowing Your Gifts On Hand

Gift Markings show up where your particular talents are meant to have a spotlight in your life.  These gifts come with a penalty marker if you dont use them.  Its like added pressure to keep you from hiding out as a chick in the shell.  You do have to knock through the limitations around you so that your light can shine.  When you know whats required, the effort isnt a struggle though.  It feels more like a hike that leaves you with a great view feeling pleasantly tired.  Ready to get to that peak of your talent this year?

Stars:  There are both five pointed and six pointed stars that show up in your hand in all kinds of places.  Regardless of where they show up, the five pointed stars are of Venus and they tend to draw attention to the areas of the hand they land on without you lifting a finger.  What is required is receptivity and gratitude to fuel the firesof the attractor factor.  The better you are at receiving and enjoying the light, the more of it you attract.  Use the hand sample to see which mythological figures you can search to learn what themes or psychological arenas are highlighted by your star.  

Six pointed stars are of Mars and they require effort.  When opportunity shines a light on you, its time to take the torch and run your lap of the Olympic run.  You dont want to be the runner that drops the torch on the way to the Olympic stadium, do you?  So based on what light comes your way, take it in and make it your own so you can run your true race and make your contribution stand out in a way that pleases you while it stretches you to do your best.  

Healers Lines or Intuitive Lines are vertical lines side by side like pickets in a fence that arent connected horizontally.  They run between the heart line and the top of the hand under the little finger.  Sitting between the heart and Mercurys finger they show that these people can literally feel what another feels and communicate it with some effect.  Healers can often struggle with feeling badly and not knowing why when they dont have healthy ways to disconnect from anothers emotional flow.  It lands like it is in your body and causes confusion.  But it makes a very effective intuitive who can help another sort out the difficult swim of feelings.  

The Apollo Line gets a lot of attention because it means you are meant to stand out in some arena in your life.  Your gifts are meant to take center stage.  It doesnt automatically mean you will be on a real stage but it does mean you are a gifted storyteller.  How you do it depends on you and there are as many ways to be that communicator in the spotlight as there are people.  I know one whos an attorney who advocates for those who dont have a voice.  

If you have one of these then you have a little more insight into how to use it this coming year.  But dont despair if you dont.  Your gifts may not be underlined in this post, yet gifted you are.  Check out to see if you resonate with a different kind of talent, shown on your hands.  Wishing you a safe and Happy New Year. 

Author: Lisa Greenfield

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Conflict Growth in December

Week 4 of the Fork in the Road December Series

Okay, if you’ve been following along, you now know what your conflict style is and what stretch is ‘on hand’ this month. If you need to catch up then you can do that HERE. ( Now that you know a bit more about what’s required, let’s have some fun with how you do it. This December we have the meet up of Jupiter and Saturn in Aquarius which heralds a new 200 year cycle of expansion that highlights the element of Air, or the mind.

It helps to slow down this month and NOT react right away to what stirs us up. It’s too easy to be triggered into old habits instead of drawing from the growth you’ve achieved over your lifetime.  A slow approach allows room for new information to come into view and inform you about options your old reactions may not factor in when you jump to conclusions or actions.  

Pause, reflect, remember what your strengths are.  If your Head Line ends under an inside finger, you require time to find your backbone to pushback on what doesn’t fit who you are now. That’s not comfortable, since you underestimate yourself more often than not.  Add to the picture that you also overestimate the person opposite you, and you have a recipe for conflict avoidance.  

One step at a time, you have a better chance to see your gifts and strengths.  Instead of snapping closed like a sea anemone, you can reach for your talents and trust that your point of view is worthwhile and needed!  Especially since you understand what it feels like to be overwhelmed, you show others how to be generous when you practice speaking up for yourself while considering them, too.

If your Head Line makes it to an outside finger under that little finger, then it can be easier for you to be dismissive of the other’s inability to articulate their argument or stand up for themselves.  When you slow down, you can actually help bring about a better conversation by giving them the space to think, feel and come back to you on a slower pace than you operate normally.  

The ability to slow down can also give you added insight that may open their eyes to where they can see the whole picture more clearly when you aren’t doing it from a place of being right and making them wrong.  Instead of dominating a moment or an exchange, you can help light the way for a longer lasting win that includes others in that victory. 

As I mentioned the first week of December, January dials up the pressure to change. So do take what helps and apply it to a slower, kinder pace right now. You’ll be very glad to reap the rewards of that for years to come.  With a 200 year cycle of Jupiter and Saturn meeting up in Air signs, we have to learn how to level the playing field better so that we all benefit.  

If you want to find out what that looks like for you this coming year, you can check out and sign up for the newsletter.  You get a special introductory reading at almost half off.  Or, you can request a Year Ahead Reading and find out just what preparations serve you best.  Thank you for tuning in and wishing you all the best, always.

Lisa Greenfield

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