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When Holidays Aren’t So Happy

None of us are ever fully prepared for losing a loved one, but the pain can be especially intense when the loss occurs during the holiday season. How is it possible to cope with grief when we’re culturally expected to celebrate and be happy during these times?

It’s crucial to take care of yourself in the ways you need. If you feel the need to scale back on holiday gatherings or skip the office party, there is no shame or guilt. Don’t be afraid to delegate tasks to others or skip them for a year if you don’t feel up to it. Finding someone objective (ideally, outside your family or circle of friends, such as a qualified grief counselor or member of clergy) to talk to may help through the journey of grief. They may show you useful skills like meditation or personal affirmations which you can use beyond the stressful holiday season. 

Because the holidays are a time to gather with family and friends, the person’s absence may be felt more strongly. Many people choose to create traditions to honor their memory: singing a favorite song, making their signature recipe, or reminiscing on happy times while looking through photos or videos. On the flip side, if there were traditions you shared with your loved one which now feel too painful, nothing says you must continue those traditions. If you wish to “pass it on” to others in need, consider a memorial donation to a charity both of you supported, or a day of service at a local soup kitchen, animal shelter, or anywhere else which holds meaning. 

Grief can be unpredictable and appear when we least expect it. In the holiday season, when many of us are already under added stress, this compounds the issue. Consider coming up with an “exit strategy” to gracefully bow out or just step out for a break. If you have a supportive friend or family member willing to listen during these rough times, keep their number handy for a quick text or call. A pet can also be a sympathetic listener; cats and dogs are natural grief counselors. 

Most importantly, it’s best not to burden yourself with “shoulds.” There is not one way you should feel, there isn’t a set number of events or gatherings you should attend, and there isn’t a designated period when grief takes place. Grieving is a lifelong process. If you lose a loved one during the holidays, you will likely associate the season with that loss forever. Allow yourself to feel everything. As much as you can, continue to consume nourishing food and drink, stay active, and (in winter climates) plenty of vitamin D/sunlight. No two people are alike and their grief processes can’t be either.

It’s all right if you’re not feeling so jolly in the wake of a loss. Finding the right balance between self-care and meaningful acts to give back can help alleviate the absence of your loved one and share a little bit of hope with others who need it…chances are some of them are grieving too, and you may be the one they need most right now.

Author: Mystic Shelley https://bestamericanpsychics.com/listing/mystic-shelley

December 16, 2021No comments, , , , , , , , , , , , , , death | family | Grief | Holidays | pain | unhappy holidays
Across the Years: Spirit Bonds with Ancestors

Rituals to honor our ancestors are practiced in cultures around the world. Each of us comes from something, or someone, else, and it’s a natural human trait to want to know our history and pay tribute to those who came before us. Although special days in different cultures (such as Dia de los Muertos, Samhain, or the Obon Festival) are observed to specifically commune with our ancestors, it’s important to make these rituals a daily part of our lives. 

Probably the most important connection we have to our ancestors is that of guardianship. Our loved ones (and even pets) who have passed on look after us even after they are gone. In fact, some of your guardians may be people you have never met in the physical world! They have a lifetime of wisdom to share with us along with the lessons they have learned in the afterlife. Communicating with them can take many forms: prayer, meditation, free journaling or drawing…the possibilities are endless. If you receive “synchronicity” in your own life, such as your favorite song playing at just the right time, or the smell of your loved one’s perfume, these are examples of the ways they send messages to us.

A good way to keep a loved one’s memory strong while honoring their life is to keep a tribute altar (in Spanish, an ofrenda). This can include pictures of the person, personal effects, or offerings of their favorite foods, along with candles or incense. Meaningful days (Days of the Dead, anniversaries of birth/death) are excellent times to honor relatives, though any day is suitable. You may also choose to visit the person’s gravesite or other place of rest. If you are honoring someone you don’t remember well or never met, ask them to speak to you in their own words. Including older family members in these ceremonies is a perfect generation-bridging activity and may help spark happy memories of the loved one who has passed.

Many people today also choose to research their family’s history through genealogy or ancestry research. Keep in mind if you do this that not every ancestor discovered may have had a happy ending or a pleasant life. We, the living, can also honor these ancestors by helping them find peace in the afterlife. Try writing a letter or postcard, dedicating a special crystal, or making a piece of art to honor their memory. The more we get to know them, the greater insight we will have into ourselves and the story of our families. 

Of course, the greatest honor we can give our ancestors is keeping their memories alive. Keeping family traditions alive-your grandmother’s soup recipe, your uncle’s football game day rituals-connects the generations. If you don’t know where to start, look through a family album or home movies. Better yet, sit down with a senior member of your family and talk about ancestors. As a Latino proverb goes, unless we know where we come from, we cannot know who we are. Each of us has many ancestors who watch over us and are waiting to share their accumulated wisdom.

Author: Mystic Shelley https://bestamericanpsychics.com/listing/mystic-shelley

December 6, 2021No comments, , , , , , , , , , , , , ancestors | Blog | blog post | mediumship; spirituality; gateway portal; psychic rebel; angels; spirit; spirit messages | mystic shelley | psychic abilities | psychic readings | spirit bonds
Gratitude – Powerful Tool for Transformation

In my final blog post for the month, I’d like to talk about one of the most profound and powerful manifestation tools available to us. As we begin the process of expansion of consciousness, we begin to notice all the little synchronicities that spirit brings to us. The fact that we are currently experiencing the American holiday of Thanksgiving, which centers around gratitude, is no coincidence.

Emotions are powerful amplifiers of our personal manifestation energy. Therefore, when we spend time being in a state of fear or anger, or any low-vibration emotion, those emotions go out to the Universe to amplify and increase manifesting exactly the opposite of what we want.

Using the other tools in my previous blog posts will help us stay on track so that we don’t get into these lower vibrational places very often. However, the tool of staying grateful, can be very challenging when we are faced with unexpected and/or significant obstacles in our lives. If we can embody a state of gratitude under any circumstances, even challenging ones, this will raise our vibration to a state of literally unconditional love and acceptance. The vibration of unconditional Love is the highest vibration that a human can embody. Mastering a true state of unconditional Love takes focused intention and practice, especially when circumstances are challenging.

However, once this ability has been mastered, over even a short period of time, your high vibration energy will travel out into the universe to bring you more of what you are grateful for. In my practice I have seen clients literally transform their lives in no time at all just by focusing on and being grateful for the blessings in their lives.

Some may say that the situation that they’re having to deal with or endure makes it impossible to be in a state of gratitude. Based on my previous blog post, just making that statement to the Universe will continue to keep you in the state of lack.

In response to that, I developed a simple but miraculous exercise that I teach clients in order to embody a state of gratitude in our daily lives:

Daily Exercise: For 5 minutes before you go to sleep, and also for 5 minutes after you wake up, spend that time giving thanks and expressing deep gratitude for your blessings. If things have become so challenging, that you feel there is nothing in life that you are grateful for, although unlikely, that may be your perception at the time. Therefore, instead of performing this exercise being grateful for blessings you have, spend the time being grateful for things you would like to manifest as if they have already come to fruition. Being grateful for them will supercharge these positive transformations into existence.

Another aspect of overcoming difficult times is having faith in a benevolent Universe, aka Spirit, aka God/Goddess, aka All that Is. When we’re faced with challenging times in our lives, it’s the Universe’s way of showing us that our life is out of balance. This absolute faith takes the burden off our shoulders and fills us with the Knowing that everything will work out for the best. That is when our lives can truly turn around for the better. It is impossible to be simultaneously in a state of fear or anxiety and also, at the same time, have Faith.

With this understanding, my wish is that over Thanksgiving weekend we can be grateful in the knowing that our futures are bright and full of blessings, have unconditional love in our hearts, and rise above any of the challenges that we are all facing.

Happy Thanksgiving!

In gratitude, Goddess Gillian

Author: Goddess Gillian, https://bestamericanpsychics.com/listing/goddess-gillian-la-psychic

November 25, 2021No comments, , , , , , , , , , , , , , #Gratitude | BAP | bap blog | best american psychics | Goddess Gillian | gratitude practice | Transformation | Transforming
Mantra – A Powerful Tool for Transformation

In my last blog post, I spoke about tools that we can use to help stay on a high vibration path of manifesting what we want in our lives. I am passionate about helping my clients during readings and so over the course of several decades, I have taught clients about tools like this that will literally transform your life. Interestingly enough, like the cobbler with no shoes, I went for years without taking my own advice.


While we try to stay on the path of gratitude and manifestation, we can be incredibly and deeply tested by the universe. Times of struggle are when we need to use these tools the most. They are very effective when used in our daily life and that is important to remember, but when we fall off our proverbial horse, these tools can help us get back on track.


We all recently experienced the incredibly potent and powerful full moon lunar eclipse in Taurus several days ago. This particular lunar event may have caused significant endings and or bumps in the road. Certainly, things that we thought were secure may have fallen apart. There was a significant amount of Pluto influence in this transit and the planet Pluto is about transformation. Transformation, especially when unexpected can be very challenging. Primarily, it is the fear of the unknown that keeps us from freely and gracefully moving through transitions without drama.


Over the last few days, I have personally experienced several deeply emotional and unexpected events. And it was no wonder that I’m writing articles about how important it is to use these tools, especially during times of stress. There was another point in my life when I was going through a transition and experiencing overwhelming fear of the unknown. The energy manifested into a pretty chronic constant anxiety, and absolute lack in my life. It was at that point that I realized that I had to take control of my thoughts. Because I am an Aquarius, I tend to run things through over and over in my mind. If these thoughts are negative in nature, it can literally manifest the most negative outcome, and that is what was happening.


That is when I began using one of the most important and powerful tools to gain control of my thoughts. I created and began using a Mantra!


The definition of a mantra is as follows: (originally in Hinduism and Buddhism) a word or sound repeated to aid concentration in meditation.
“a mantra is given to a trainee meditator when his teacher initiates him”

I created a personal mantra that I would repeat over and over, even in silence whenever I found my thoughts racing through my mind in a flurry of anxiety producing, never ending circles.

My personal mantra is: I am Healthy, Wealthy, Wise, and Worthy.


By starting this practice, in a very short amount of time, I was able to catch myself before I even started with the endless worry. And after practicing for only a few weeks, I noticed that my anxiety had decreased immensely, and my situation had improved exponentially! It was literally miraculous!


Another excellent byproduct of this very positive habit is that you start to sense your vibration going down even before you start to worry. The moment you begin to feel it in your body, is the point when you start repeating your mantra over and over.


In conclusion, everyone experiences hardships in their lifetimes here. Using these tools, and especially a mantra, will immediately raise your vibration and transform your life for the better in limitless ways.


Happy Manifesting!

Author: ~Goddess Gillian, https://bestamericanpsychics.com/listing/goddess-gillian-la-psychic
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