Social Distancing and Self-Discovery

Oct 05 2020

Social Distancing and Self-Discovery

Part 1: Toddlers to Teens

Recently I have had friends and clients tell me that their children, especially teens, are really struggling with the social changes caused by the COVID-19 pandemic and are now experiencing symptoms of depression and mood disorders. This got me wondering why. What I discovered was this…

With the change in social parameters children (and adults) are now being forced to redirect their lives. Activities, events, jobs, and life goals that guided us, molded us, defined us, are no longer accessible and this makes our soul beg the question….”Who am I?”  “Who am I when I’m no longer a popular high school student? Who am I when I’m no longer a cheerleader? Who am I without band? Who am I when I’m not the shift leader at my after school job? Etc., etc.”  Kids (and adults) are now being pressed to look deeply into themselves and say, “When all else is removed, who am I really?”  

Truth be told, that’s a very difficult question to meditate on, even for the most seasoned spiritual soul. We immediately want to define ourselves by our associations, our jobs, our goals, and our personality traits. “I am a student.” “I am a cheerleader.” “I am a responsible shift leader working to pay for a car.” But when all those defining options are taken away and we stand alone, truly alone, and ask ourselves, “Who am I without all those things?”  We can find ourselves struggling for the answer. This can lead to feelings of numbness, feelings of loss, and ultimately, well, depressive symptoms or at least some form of sadness. 

The change in social parameters is guiding our children to see who they are as a soul, a complete being, and if we have no experience in looking at that side of ourselves we can easily miss the answer and become disheartened. Like I said, it’s hard enough for the most seasoned spiritual soul seeker to absorb, so it’s no wonder kids, and some adults, are struggling with the social changes we are experiencing this year.

So what do we do about it? Where do we find the answers? Well, there’s only one way, and that’s to go within. Learn to meditate in a way that works for you and continuously ask, “Who Am I?” until you discover the answer. It’s not always easy.

I completely understand that asking children or even teens to meditate on such a deep subject may not be in the cards, but you can help your child by asking them to just think on it a little.  “Who are you when you aren’t being defined by events and actions around you?”  Just see what they come up with.  It’s simply a catalyst to critical and spiritual thinking which often opens doors to personal peace.

Author: Samantha Hall

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