Curious about the best way forward in booking a psychic reading?
People seek psychic readings for lots of reasons, and with lots of different agendas. Here are some tips for using your time and money wisely – and respecting the guidance and expertise of the professional you’re consulting.
Your goal and question(s) are key. Carl Jung warned that fuzzy questions receive fuzzy answers. Think about what you’re wanting to get out of the reading and consciously frame your goals and questions.
What questions should you ask during a psychic reading?
Do you want to understand a situation? Are you looking for psychic confirmation of a hunch you have? Are you facing a decision? Are you wanting an idea of what’s ahead and the best use of your focus? Is what you really want reassurance – that you’re okay, that a situation is
alright, that you on your path? (Hint: You’re always on your path.)
Regardless of your interest – health, career, money, love, what’s coming up for you – here are some questions worth considering:
What would be useful for me to know?
What’s my most beneficial course of action?
What am I not seeing in this situation?
Rarely are situations set in stone. Other people in situations can change their minds or directions, and sometimes it’s simply not in your best interests to know exactly what is coming. Ask what is likely to happen, rather than what is going to happen. And then, if you don’t like the answer, ask what you can do to work around it, or to make the best of it.
What should you avoid during a psychic reading?
Don’t ask a question if you’re not willing to hear the answer. This comes up a lot in relationship psychic readings. Do you really want to know if your ex is coming back? (That’s probably the most frequent question readers hear.) Do you really want to know if your boyfriend is seeing someone else? What will you do with the information? Bonus question: Why would you want to be with someone who rejected you?
Other danger zones:
- If you’re attached to a particular outcome, and/or you’re prone to hyperfocus on expectations. This is particularly problematic in relationship readings. If a reader picks up a probability of hooking up with a particular person, you aren’t helping the connection by tapping your finger impatiently and psychically telling the person to hurry up. You will only frustrate yourself, and you could delay or damage the prospect.
- Attaching to time frames. Timing is one of the trickiest aspects of readings, and you can cause yourself terrific frustration by expecting hard deadlines. Instead of asking for, or holding tightly to, a specific timeline, ask instead for the order of events (i.e., X will happen, and then Y, and then Z).
- Treating a psychic reading as entertainment. (It happens.) Sometimes people think it would be fun to get their fortune told. An ethical professional provides guidance and insight that’s more valuable than that.
- Asking about other people. If you are not directly involved in a situation and are just curious about someone else, is it really your business? What will you do with the information?
- Asking about whether or when someone is going to die. Many readers will not touch the question. One way of looking at this is that it is between that person and God. Another way: how would knowing this change your behavior? Are there specific actions you would take? Things you would say to the person? Amends you would make? The fact that you considered asking about death is an invitation to act as if and change your behavior now.
If the reason behind wanting to know is that you are a caretaker facing burnout, reframe questions from your perspective: How can you safeguard your energies or find others to share your burden? Or follow the earlier suggestion about timing: what sequence of events should I watch for?
- Talking more than listening. Your choice if you want to pay someone to hear you out, but you may be missing the chance for helpful insight. This sign, and the next one, could be prompts for therapy.
- Arguing with the reader or the information. That response might indicate this reader is not a good fit. The response could also, however, be a sign that something more is going on with you. If you find yourself justifying your position or telling the reader why
the message couldn’t possibly happen, pay attention, and look inside.
Above all, maintain responsibility for your choices and your life; do not hand them over to the reader. Engage discretion, take the information, and use it to move ahead.
Not all mentioned here applies to medium sessions; use your judgement.
Author: Kathy Biehl http://bestamericanpsychics.com/listing/kathy-biehl