The Holidays, Grief and The Collective Consciousness

The Holidays, Grief and The Collective Consciousness

There is something called the collective consciousness. Wikipedia defines it thus: Collective consciousness, collective conscience, or collective conscious (French: conscience collective) is the set of shared beliefs, ideas, and moral attitudes which operate as a unifying force within society.[1] In general, it does not refer to the specifically moral conscience, but to a shared understanding of social norms.  

When the holidays roll around, it can be very difficult to follow our individual hearts and minds when it comes to how we really feel we want to be and act vs the almost overwhelming pull to join the bandwagon “just because…” Just because…what exactly? Tradition? Our upbringing? Expectation? Or the collective consciousness?  For people who are grieving loss, dealing with a depression perhaps, ill, exhausted, or just simply wanting a break from the demand of the winter holiday season and all that seems to automatically go along with it, it can be downright dreadful.  

I know for me personally, with one child launched in the world, and the other on the precipice this year, and most of our parents passed, Christmas (our holiday) and New Year and all that comes with it feels very different for our family now. I also, by my nature, can wax very nostalgic and sentimental, so I could really go down a rabbit hole grieving what was, and is no more etc. Then the thought of all the decorating, hosting of friends, shopping, rushing around makes me want to dive under the covers until January 2! Sound familiar? But…. then there’s the part of me, the child within who adores the lights, the wonderment, the heart expanding feeling in the air of the spirit of the season; kindness, thoughtfulness, merriment, and music. So, here’s what I am suggesting for those who are relating to this article so far…do what FEELS RIGHT FOR YOU! Decorate or don’t. Give gifts, or don’t. Make special plans, prepare certain foods, entertain, OR DON’T. I encourage you to be aware of what feels real and true in your heart. What feels right in your body, your energy level. Then stop, and really ask yourself, why am I doing this? Or not doing that? Do I feel I am SUPPOSED to because it’s what we do in December and January? (The collective consciousness) …or because other people are expecting me to? What would it feel like to not decorate? Or perhaps just a whisper of decoration this time? What is true, and authentic in my motivation this holiday season? I am offering the idea of giving yourself PERMISSON to pause, reflect, and then decide to act or not, or any shade between the two! You are not lazy, wrong, weird, selfish, lost or my favorite; a Scrooge if you a). don’t partake, or b). partake somewhat in the holiday traditions. When you are authentic and connected with yourself, and not on auto pilot, you may find you wish to do small warm and lovely things for yourself, your home and others. Light a candle and weep for your missed loved ones. Soothe your soul with a piece of music you love and hot bath. Call a friend you genuinely want to connect with. GO out into the cold crisp wintry air and breathe in deeply, perhaps with gratitude for the small easy things of life.  Simplify.  

Give yourself the gift of truth this year. Your own truth. And see how brightly your own inner light can shine.  

Author: Katherine Glass

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