Can you figure out which of the three phrases here are truth and not truth?
- Love exists in all sentient beings. You only have to open your heart to experience the love in the life around you.
- You are loved unconditionally, and you are never alone.
- Listen to your heart. If you love someone, follow your heart and THAT will lead you to a loving meaningful relationship in your life.
From a spiritual point of view, we are created from love. From the love of the Creator! Our spirit and soul recognize and gravitate towards the Creator’s love. As humans (we are spirit in human form) we forget the love we come from. The voice of our Soul is soft and subtle and often goes unnoticed. We literally forget where we come from and how we used to feel. It’s as if a veil comes between us and heaven when we are born.
We are designed to remember that divine love over time. We can jog our memory through mindful practice of awareness and gratitude. We may eventually discover the hidden beauty of life will reveal itself to us. Our Divine origin, which IS unconditional love, is hidden right in front of us.
During our journey in this human life, the creator, our soul, and Guides form Spirit walk with us. They love us and try to guide us. We can choose to listen or not to listen. Our lives are about learning and growing and remembering who we really are. For some mysterious reason we are here in this life to remember what love is. We are meant to find our way back to God’s love. We are made from love, and we will return to that love. The miracle is remembering and living in love while we are here.
Emotions, sometimes called energy in motion by healers and light workers, lead you and often MISLEAD you. Your emotions are messages from your inner self. Your emotions, as powerful as they are, are messages based on your physical and psychological point of view. Emotions are often based in needs. Which is totally fine, and often they feel satisfying and fulfilling. Emotions inform you about love and relationship.
We start learning to love from the moment we are conceived. We learn from our interactions with our parents and caretakers. We learn from the feelings that arise within us through these interactions. We need touch, snuggles, emotional nurturing and much as we need food to sustain us. How we are cared for sets the stage for how we give and receive love as adults.
Childhood is not perfect. (It’s meant to be that way.) You may crave love from your parents and never get it. You may then spend the rest of your “relationship life” seeking the love you never got. Thing is, you may keep choosing the same kind of people your parents were, people who are unable to give you the love you desire. You may fall in love with a person only to experience craving something you will never get. You can unconsciously recreate the dynamics your “parents” taught you until you decide NOT to do that anymore. (Most people need some guidance on how to create different relationship dynamics and learn new “bonding patterns.” That is totally possible.)
How can you create the best and healthiest love for yourself? The best path to a loving relationship begins with loving yourself. A loving relationship with yourself includes recognizing your own divinity. See yourself through God’s perspective. You are respected, appreciated, and held in high esteem by your creator. Why not give that to yourself?
When you appreciate yourself by acknowledging your efforts in life during your struggles, when you speak to yourself with kindness and compassion, when you forgive yourself, show patience when you are growing and learning, you are loving yourself. When you love yourself in this way, you are able to love another person in a healthy balanced way. When you love yourself like this, you are also able to allow the love of Spirit into your heart and into your life. When you open to Spirit, miracles can happen.
If someone lives in self- hate, recrimination, guilt and/or constant remorse, that is what they put into the relationships they participate in. That is NOT love. Addicts and alcoholics often show us that very clearly. Some addicts are so consumed with what they are addicted to they put that substance and the feeling it gives them in front of everything, including their own well- being. Addiction is the opposite of self -love. Addiction, the need for something outside of yourself to make you feel a certain way, blocks your ability to give and receive love. It is an act of self-love to break from that all-consuming need in order to connect to who you really are once again.
Should you follow your heart into a relationship with another person who is unable to receive or give love, you are not in love. You are in something else all-together.
Compassion for another, loving unconditionally is divine. This compassionate state doesn’t mean that entering into a romantic state or even a deep friendship is a given. Choose relationships that are in balance and enhance your own well-being. Have compassion for another, for sure, and be mindful of the dynamics at hand.
Your first love is to you. When you love yourself, you are able to let divine love of the creator into your heart. When you are in a balance of love like this, you are able to love another, and choose another person who you can create a wonderful experience with, because you are able to negotiate a healthy loving relationship you both can learn and grow with.
It’s a practice…relationships are a practice of love. Exchanging with each other, learning, growing, and LIVING!
Author: Nancy Smith, http://bestamericanpsychics.com/listing/nancy-smith