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Gratitude – Powerful Tool for Transformation

In my final blog post for the month, I’d like to talk about one of the most profound and powerful manifestation tools available to us. As we begin the process of expansion of consciousness, we begin to notice all the little synchronicities that spirit brings to us. The fact that we are currently experiencing the American holiday of Thanksgiving, which centers around gratitude, is no coincidence.

Emotions are powerful amplifiers of our personal manifestation energy. Therefore, when we spend time being in a state of fear or anger, or any low-vibration emotion, those emotions go out to the Universe to amplify and increase manifesting exactly the opposite of what we want.

Using the other tools in my previous blog posts will help us stay on track so that we don’t get into these lower vibrational places very often. However, the tool of staying grateful, can be very challenging when we are faced with unexpected and/or significant obstacles in our lives. If we can embody a state of gratitude under any circumstances, even challenging ones, this will raise our vibration to a state of literally unconditional love and acceptance. The vibration of unconditional Love is the highest vibration that a human can embody. Mastering a true state of unconditional Love takes focused intention and practice, especially when circumstances are challenging.

However, once this ability has been mastered, over even a short period of time, your high vibration energy will travel out into the universe to bring you more of what you are grateful for. In my practice I have seen clients literally transform their lives in no time at all just by focusing on and being grateful for the blessings in their lives.

Some may say that the situation that they’re having to deal with or endure makes it impossible to be in a state of gratitude. Based on my previous blog post, just making that statement to the Universe will continue to keep you in the state of lack.

In response to that, I developed a simple but miraculous exercise that I teach clients in order to embody a state of gratitude in our daily lives:

Daily Exercise: For 5 minutes before you go to sleep, and also for 5 minutes after you wake up, spend that time giving thanks and expressing deep gratitude for your blessings. If things have become so challenging, that you feel there is nothing in life that you are grateful for, although unlikely, that may be your perception at the time. Therefore, instead of performing this exercise being grateful for blessings you have, spend the time being grateful for things you would like to manifest as if they have already come to fruition. Being grateful for them will supercharge these positive transformations into existence.

Another aspect of overcoming difficult times is having faith in a benevolent Universe, aka Spirit, aka God/Goddess, aka All that Is. When we’re faced with challenging times in our lives, it’s the Universe’s way of showing us that our life is out of balance. This absolute faith takes the burden off our shoulders and fills us with the Knowing that everything will work out for the best. That is when our lives can truly turn around for the better. It is impossible to be simultaneously in a state of fear or anxiety and also, at the same time, have Faith.

With this understanding, my wish is that over Thanksgiving weekend we can be grateful in the knowing that our futures are bright and full of blessings, have unconditional love in our hearts, and rise above any of the challenges that we are all facing.

Happy Thanksgiving!

In gratitude, Goddess Gillian

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Mantra – A Powerful Tool for Transformation

In my last blog post, I spoke about tools that we can use to help stay on a high vibration path of manifesting what we want in our lives. I am passionate about helping my clients during readings and so over the course of several decades, I have taught clients about tools like this that will literally transform your life. Interestingly enough, like the cobbler with no shoes, I went for years without taking my own advice.


While we try to stay on the path of gratitude and manifestation, we can be incredibly and deeply tested by the universe. Times of struggle are when we need to use these tools the most. They are very effective when used in our daily life and that is important to remember, but when we fall off our proverbial horse, these tools can help us get back on track.


We all recently experienced the incredibly potent and powerful full moon lunar eclipse in Taurus several days ago. This particular lunar event may have caused significant endings and or bumps in the road. Certainly, things that we thought were secure may have fallen apart. There was a significant amount of Pluto influence in this transit and the planet Pluto is about transformation. Transformation, especially when unexpected can be very challenging. Primarily, it is the fear of the unknown that keeps us from freely and gracefully moving through transitions without drama.


Over the last few days, I have personally experienced several deeply emotional and unexpected events. And it was no wonder that I’m writing articles about how important it is to use these tools, especially during times of stress. There was another point in my life when I was going through a transition and experiencing overwhelming fear of the unknown. The energy manifested into a pretty chronic constant anxiety, and absolute lack in my life. It was at that point that I realized that I had to take control of my thoughts. Because I am an Aquarius, I tend to run things through over and over in my mind. If these thoughts are negative in nature, it can literally manifest the most negative outcome, and that is what was happening.


That is when I began using one of the most important and powerful tools to gain control of my thoughts. I created and began using a Mantra!


The definition of a mantra is as follows: (originally in Hinduism and Buddhism) a word or sound repeated to aid concentration in meditation.
“a mantra is given to a trainee meditator when his teacher initiates him”

I created a personal mantra that I would repeat over and over, even in silence whenever I found my thoughts racing through my mind in a flurry of anxiety producing, never ending circles.

My personal mantra is: I am Healthy, Wealthy, Wise, and Worthy.


By starting this practice, in a very short amount of time, I was able to catch myself before I even started with the endless worry. And after practicing for only a few weeks, I noticed that my anxiety had decreased immensely, and my situation had improved exponentially! It was literally miraculous!


Another excellent byproduct of this very positive habit is that you start to sense your vibration going down even before you start to worry. The moment you begin to feel it in your body, is the point when you start repeating your mantra over and over.


In conclusion, everyone experiences hardships in their lifetimes here. Using these tools, and especially a mantra, will immediately raise your vibration and transform your life for the better in limitless ways.


Happy Manifesting!

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Your Word is Your Wand

While my primary career and passion in life is being a “Psychic Medium”, I also explain to my clients that it is not my job to predict their future. I explain that we all have the gift of free will and must be accountable for everything going on in our lives. When I “see” a potential future, I explain that is what is most probable in THIS moment. I teach people that we all manifest in every moment and give them tools to change their lives for the better. Some people will listen and utilize these tools and will have expansions of consciousness and never go back to the “way things were”. And some will continue in their old patterns which will worsen over time, the more the situation becomes engrained and continues to be manifested.

One of my favorite and most powerful tools for literally transforming your life for the better is to clearly understand that “Your Word IS Your Wand”. Science says that everything is energy. All energy follows thought. If we think about something, it will literally bring that thought into existence in a non-physical realm. Science has proven in the laboratory that a scientist focusing on the outcome of an experiment can change the outcome of the experiment.

Therefore, what we think about constantly, but moreover what we SPEAK and even more so, what we WRITE, will literally go out into the Universe to manifest in our lives. When we speak negatively about anything, it will be energetically called into existence and will eventually manifest into physical form, depending on how much we reinforce it by continuing to discuss the topic. When we write something, the writing it down literally brings it into physical form. Emailing or sending written world out into the ethers even furthers this phenomenon. When we have emotion behind a topic of discussion, energetically that emotion acts as a powerful amplifier to help with manifesting the topic with more force and speed.

If we become conscious about what we speak or write about as we go throughout day, we will get a clear picture of what we are manifesting in every moment. Do we go around complaining about people, places, and situations? Are we constantly looking at the glass half empty? Even and especially if we are going through tough times, it is critically important to make a point to transform our thoughts and then our words both verbal and written into positive affirmations as opposed to complaints. This is especially true if those complaints involve anger or other negative emotions.

I had a long-time client who liked to spend most of his readings with me complaining about a situation. He did not use the time to get clarity in order to help solve the problem at hand. Finally, at the end of a reading, I told him that I had homework for him. He was to take 1 week and literally not complain about anything. If he found himself complaining or feeling aggravated about someone or something, he should do or say something positive instead. The important thing was to recognize the pattern as soon as it started and to immediately change it to positive. After a week he reached out to me to tell me that his life had changed so dramatically that literally everything had turned around for the better! He was ecstatic!

Some clients just want to know their future and not be interested in helping a positive future come to fruition. They stay in the same old patterns and then wonder why they aren’t attracting financial abundance or the right partner, or whatever the case may be. It is my opinion that the goal of a psychic medium is to help people see that they can literally create their very best life by making these types of positive changes. The idea is to teach them how to raise their vibration, and therefore the vibration of the planet. So, remember Your Word is Your Wand!

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The Archangel Hall of Fame

Quick…can you name any of the Archangels? You may know one or two of them, but each of them has a name and a specific role to play as a spirit guardian. There are 12 major Archangels; the number 12 is often seen in spiritual matters: the signs of the Zodiac, months of the year…the list goes on. Although some of these Archangels may be referred to as “he” or “she,” it’s important to remember that they are beings of pure energy/light and don’t have to be exclusively male or female when you call upon them!

          Perhaps the two best-known Archangels are Michael and Gabriel, both of whom appear in Judeo-Christian and Islamic traditions. Michael, the warrior angel, is appropriately the protector of physical types like soldiers and firefighters. Gabriel, on the other hand, might be said to live by the saying “the pen is mightier.” He watches over the writers and philosopher types of the world. Almost equally well known is Raphael, the healer. If you are in a medical or healing/spiritual profession, get to know this Archangel better.

          If you’re a lover of nature, get to know Chamuel, the guardian of the natural world/environment, and Ariel, who watches over animals and pets. Call upon them when you want to develop a deeper connection to nature and its gifts. Maybe indoor pursuits are more your speed? Sandalphon is the Archangel of the creative arts, especially musicians. Jophel, also called Jophiel, can help you see inner beauty in yourself and others.

          When it’s time to really roll up your sleeves, call upon Haniel, guardian of grace and passion for life. She will help you restore joy in your daily practice. Metatron, on the other hand, is a more serious type; also called the Angel of Life, he will get you focused and back on track when life goes awry. Zadkiel, the fire Archangel, can light a flame of righteousness and clear away harmful energies whenever they appear.

          We all want love in our lives…Chamuel, the guardian of love, helps us build deeper spiritual relationships. Jophiel reminds us to always keep joy and light in our lives, and Raguel, whose symbol is Libra/the scales, keeps the balance between darkness and light, justice and mercy.

          Perhaps the most misunderstood Archangel is Azrael, also called the Angel of Death. His name literally means “whom God helps” and he is the one to call upon through difficult transitions in life. He’s also able to show us ways to get rid of negative energies…so that we may remember to live.

          The major 12 Archangels each have special purpose, and there are others as well. You may want to invest in an Angel card deck to really reflect on the meanings of each Archangel and meditate on the image and meaning of each card. These eternal, powerful beings are looking out for us each day on earth and they want what is best for us. Never be afraid to call on one or more of them by name so they can guide and comfort you. They are messengers and you’ll find they always have something meaningful to say.

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Angels Calling: Spiritual Messages and You

When was the last time one of your angels spoke to you? You may not know this yet, but angels are continually sending messages to us. The secret to hearing them is knowing how, and where, to listen and observe. There’s no “secret frequency,” like a radio show between stations…instead, the secret lies in our ability to tune in spiritually.

          Angels, who are beings of Spirit, send messages to us in subtle ways. Have you ever heard your favorite song when you needed cheer? Maybe you’ve observed a string of meaningful numbers on the license plate in front of you? These are perfect examples of angelic communication at work. Most of us lead busy lives and we’re not inclined to pay attention to these small details. Once we start seeing patterns in the chaos, though, we may wonder how we never saw them before.

          There have been countless stories about people who have suddenly heard a “little voice” offering advice or followed a gut feeling. Some may call this simply human intuition. However, angels are also known to communicate in this way. The messages may not always make sense at the time, or they may simply be snippets of information. Let’s say the name “Caitlin” came to you. You may not know anyone by that name…only to discover later that it’s a person you’re meant to have in your life. Perhaps you meet a Caitlin at work or school and strike up an immediate friendship. Maybe Caitlin is a manager who wishes to hire you for your dream job. That’s the power of an angelic message!

          Likewise, images and dialogue from dreams can be angels speaking to you. Dreams are the borderland between the physical world and the spiritual realms. Not everything we experience in dreams makes sense to us when we wake up. In a dream world, angels often serve as go-betweens between deceased loved ones and the living. They may also show us glimpses of a future which has not yet taken shape or a past we’ve forgotten. If you are someone who dreams vividly, consider keeping a bedside diary to find patterns in your nighttime visions.

          Not all angelic communication is vague or undefined. Once you have learned to focus spiritually, the angels’ voices will become clearer. Another way by which they speak with us is channeling, a more direct form of communication. There are different tools we can use for these purposes. Some psychics use crystals, some may prefer Tarot or Oracle cards, and still others may be ink or tea leaf readers. The common theme among these practices is to allow the angel(s) to speak through us. We are the interpreters, not the messengers. The word “angel” itself comes from the ancient Greek word for “messenger,” which should tell you a lot!

          Angels make it their mission to give us hope, light, and guidance through life. You don’t have to have any special talent to hear their voices. If you’ve never stopped to truly listen, start doing that. You will start seeing and hearing your angels as they whisper their eternal wisdom to you, whether you are asleep or awake!

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What is the Difference Between a Psychic and a Medium?

The difference between a psychic and a medium is something that can be confusing to many people. This is a question I am asked by almost every person who sits down for a reading with me and the difference between the two is very important.  It’s important to know because mediumship is involved and requires a deeper level of connection. It can also be a more intense experience and you will want to be prepared for it emotionally.

One of the most important things to note about the difference between these two ways of connecting is that one cannot happen without the other. It is also important to note that who you are connecting with is different as well because the medium isn’t connecting to guides or creator – they are connecting with a very specific person on the other side of the veil.

The first thing to understand is that you can be a psychic without being a medium. However, you CANNOT be a medium without being a psychic.

A Psychic will have all of the basic skills that you need for a reading. They will be able to provide messages about what is going on in your life, potentially they will be able to provide insight into your future and most importantly they can provide divine guidance, direction and advice from God and Creator…or whatever or whomever you connect with as your higher power or higher level of creation. A Psychic has the gifts that will allow them to see, hear, feel and know what is important for you to grow and flourish in your life. How a Psychic connects to the information can vary. Some Psychics use oracle cards or Tarot cards and some Psychics will not need any tools and will have the ability to connect using only their intuition (This is how I read. I don’t need to use cards or tools…I only use them when my client asks for them.)

A Medium is a Psychic but they also have the ability to connect with your loved ones who have passed and exist on the other side of the veil, and they will use all of their psychic gifts to be able do this.  A good medium will be able to connect to your loved ones and provide you with enough evidence that will let you know that they have connected with your loved ones. Some of the evidence that they may be able to provide is names and dates, how your loved one passed, along with shared memories and experiences that you may have had together.

A mediumship reading can be a truly beautiful experience that can bring you peace, clarity and closure after the loss of a loved one.

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Your Loved Ones Are Connecting With You

My Dad loved to do diy projects around our house and I remember puttering around with him fixing things. I learned how to do things like installing a new shower with a hand held hose, hanging and mudding seams in new drywall and painting walls “the right way”…instead of just slapping the paint on in the faster more efficient way that I preferred. My personal favorite project he worked on was a plastic whale he turned into a fountain. He was so creative, and it was so cute. The water for the fountain pushed up through where the whale’s blow hole would have been and was situated in the middle of a pond in my parents’ yard.

He has been gone now for 12 long years. And ever since he passed, I can’t seem to pick up a hammer or a power tool without feeling him step up next to me energetically. And just like when he was here physically, he wants to make sure that I “do it right”. I often hear him say “don’t jimmy rig that”, “don’t half ass it” or my favorite “damn it…go get an anchor. A nail ain’t gonna hold that.” All in my dad’s voice in my head. It’s comforting to know that he still expects me to half ass most of the diy projects that I work on in my own home (LOL) but I know it doesn’t come from a place of expecting me to mess something up. Instead, I know that he is beside me…gently nudging me to do things right the first time just like he did in life when he was still here in physical form. And it comes from a place of love. Letting me know that he is here watching over me even if it is just to tease me about doing a project right the first time.

And that is how it happens. Our loved ones on the other side will connect with us in the most mundane ways in physical life because that is how you experienced them in life.

The energetic connection to your loved one can be very subtle and is usually connected to something about them that you would recognize. Some obvious ones might be smelling their perfume or cologne or cigarette smoke. But others could be less obvious. Did your Grandmother love gardening and so do you? When you are gardening pay close attention…any thoughts or memories you experience may be brought up because she is near you. One person I know was making a favorite family recipe and wondered out loud what the secret ingredient was because her mother would never share this secret and hers just didn’t taste the same. Suddenly she started smelling lemons. So, she added a touch of lemon juice to the recipe and it made the flavor in her dish just right and It turned out exactly the way her mom made it.

So, pay attention and trust yourself. Most importantly, ask your loved one to come in close to you and connect with you. They are with you and want to let you know that they are around and still connected to you.

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Your Psychic Antenna

When I teach beginning psychic intuitive development classes, I always tell my students about their energy anatomy, which includes what I call their psychic antenna. We are all born with one. In my private practice as a psychic and medium people often ask me how my psychic abilities work.  I tell them this:

We are all born with the equipment to be intuitive, to connect with our psychic knowing and senses, and to communicate with and connect with the spirit realm. The spirit realm includes spirit guides, angels, deceased loved ones and animals, the elemental and plant spirits as well as the Divine, (God, Goddess, Creator, Nature, Universal Consciousness…) and your own higher self. It is simply a matter of what degree of attention or interest one has in developing that innate ability.  You and I can both take piano lessons, and we could learn to play a few songs, or we might feel impassioned to become a professional. Some may have a more natural propensity toward further development of a particular talent than others and may find more ease with certain talents than others. The point is, anyone can learn to find and experience consciously, their own psychic antenna! It is working most of the time anyway, we just aren’t paying close attention. That is where the focus and intention come in. 

When you decide to sign up for a class to develop your intuition or psychic gifts, you will likely find that you surprise yourself with your ability. When you take the time to sit quietly focused on your inner vision, sensing, hearing, and knowing, you can get a lot of information! The trick now is to trust it. The only way to develop trust of that information you are receiving is to practice, check out feedback from external sources such as a friend you practice on, or a circumstance you “read” to get the information about. For example, you decide to “tune in” with your antenna about a particular day in the near future. Let’s take the weather. You sit down, become calm and focused on your breath and clear your chatter mind by focusing there on the breath for a minute.  Now, go in your thought to the day in the future that you want to “read” the weather for.  Allow any images, words and or feeling senses to come to your mind about the weather for that day. Write it down. Now wait until that day arrives and see how you did.  Another one I like is the friend check. Close your eyes and breathe a few calm natural breaths. Bring a friend into your mind. (Take note of the time you do this), now tune in with your antenna to where your friend is and what they are doing, how they are feeling or what they are wearing. You may get an abstract sense like a color or texture. The more you scan the more you will receive. When you get what feels like enough information, check it out with your friend. Ask them where they were or what they were doing and feeling at that time on that day. You can tell them ahead of time and get their permission if you like that you are practicing your intuition and want to take a look at them at some point in the near future. Keep it basic and general, so they don’t feel anxious or invaded! You will likely be surprised at how accurate most of your information was. This takes practice and focus while in a relaxed state. Remember, I said to be consciously aware of your information, including setting the intention to gather specific information. The truth is, we are getting information through our antenna all the time.  As you practice, you will notice your psychic antenna getting stronger and more accurate. It is like developing a muscle.

There are many good reasons to develop and use your psychic ability in your life without ever deciding to use it professionally or to even use it for other’s benefit. Reading energies and getting information can cut out a lot of unnecessary detours along your life path. Hiring the wrong person for a job for example. Making a move that really doesn’t serve your best purpose, whether small or large. Knowing whom to trust and whom not to, you get the idea.

The next time you get an opportunity to learn to connect with and consciously use your psychic anatomy, I recommend that you take a leap and give it a try! You may just find a whole new path in your life.

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Reality is Timeless

According to Albert Einstein “The dividing line between past, present and future is an illusion”. Then these 3 states, past, present, and future are “NOW”. Then how do we access these as they are NOW? The human consciousness could just be the catalyst of moving between this illusion. As space gives the perception of time, the going inward, is condensing the space/time. Do we in our brain, carry the history of man, how do we access this ancient history, that is still the NOW, being that reality is timeless?

From my experience as an aura reader, an empath, and a healer, I have found that our emotional layer is the aspect that connects past, present, and future realities into the NOW.  This is because our experiences, through our human personality, form our emotional reactions as a major influence in creating our interpretations along our life path, and these interpretations then create and form our world view and our reality as we perceive it.  It literally shapes who we are, how we feel, our reactions, and who and what we attract into that reality, and it influences the vibration that we emit out into the universe.

A good example of this is an unhealed inner child, when a situation occurring in the NOW, as an adult, can trigger the strong emotional response of the inner child.  Therefore, proving to us that this inner child is still existing in the NOW, as part of our consciousness, even as an adult. Thus, bringing the inner child across time and space, as we perceive it here, into our NOW.

When we explore the subconscious, emotional layer of the aura, and we identify an energetic lineal connection in relation to the triggered response NOW, this takes us “back” to a “time” in our life path of which we were, for example, traumatised. We can find a hidden part of ourselves as a child, that we unconsciously abandoned, to protect ourselves from the pain. And it is this very unconscious act of self-protection, that makes us all “unconscious”, and creates a Spiritual amnesia, as we unwittingly move away from our soul self or our authentic self.  

It is not a deliberate act, but one that is the only known way, as a child, when we are forced to be living an illusion. And until such time that actual soul level consciousness and healing has reached a critical mass on this planet, this will continue to happen.

It is important to remember that the unconscious self, is often insecure, and can be easily influenced by yet another “unconscious” and insecure self, and if you put millions of unconscious souls together, they take the power off one another to try to get back the feeling of personal soul power, and true connection.  This is how we as humans attempt to mimic what we have lost, (but we cannot remember what we have lost). So, while this happens, we only continue to create a mass reality which is in fact a mass illusion.

It is this illusion that we are currently living in, that drives people to look outwards for the very thing that is missing, and which is the underlying factor that creates the need for competition, drives the ego, and can even create wars.

The good news is that we can heal that part of us, and bring that part through to the NOW, into conscious awareness, to heal and find inner peace, and the true connection to our authentic self, our soul self, and the Divine.

It is through the good work of strong authentic souls who are reawakening and “remembering,” that this healing is happening.  As the people break free of illusion, the opportunity to heal is abundant, however the challenge is to be prepared to go within, to heal, rather than to go outwards, and continue the path of revenge or seeking power by hurting another person, or people.

We need to learn that anyone in pain or causing pain is caught in an illusion born from the unconsciousness of those past, present, and future. We need to learn to look at this from this viewpoint and with compassion.

And when we realize that by going within, and healing ourselves, we relinquish the illusion and can carry higher and true soul consciousness through to the next generations.  So, as they are born and incarnate here, they will remain open and conscious and will not end up with Spiritual amnesia.  They will know who they truly are, they will know their purpose, they will utilize their amazing talents and the amazing power of their connection to the divine and their connection to all of us.  And we who welcome them here, can connect with them to continue our healing on the path back to full consciousness so then we can ascend into the New Earth (of which we are here to create).

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Relationships: Illusional Change versus True Spiritual Growth

This article refers to the common theme of our personal and intimate relationships that we form with others.

In this time of many changes, as individuals are exploring who they truly are, the topic of relationships is an interesting one because of the diversity that we face as souls set themselves free to find their authentic selves.

Relationships are a learning ground and as well as a playground, and the most personal relationships are a major part in our school of life as an experience as a human being.  This is where the greatest growth can be achieved, however it is also where the greatest illusion of growth can also be achieved.

The best way to explain this is to look at an example of growth and an example of the illusion of growth.

  1. TRUE PERSONAL AND SPRITUAL GROWTH

This is achieved when a person who has achieved a strong sense of self awareness, enters a relationship, and therefore is open enough to identify any common patterns that emerge, it may be things such as self-sabotage, insecurity, jealousy, giving too much, or becoming controlling.  There are many examples of this.

The key is to look at the self, look at your own responses and reactions, and to identify whether this behaviour is a common thread in your journey, and personal relationships.  If you identify your responses as something that you always do, then it is time to go within and to explore the very foundations of where this pattern developed.

An excellent example is that of the narcissist/empath attraction which has been identified as quite common, yet it is more than just that because there are so many variations of both empath and narcissist, and so many unique and individual life experiences, that to put a person in a box like that will not always provide the answers that they seek.

The important thing is that through going within and locating and identifying these patterns within your psyche and subconscious, you can then heal those responses, which clears out the mental, emotional and energetic  clutter to allow your light of your soul truth to shine!

When this is accomplished, you may feel that the relationship no longer fits you, or you may even see your partner as they are, and not who you want them to be, or you may see them as exactly who you really want after all!

“With True Personal and Spiritual Growth, the changes come from within you, and not from your reactions to your partner”.

  •  THE ILLUSION OF GROWTH

Have you ever known someone who seems to change their personality, in response to whomever they are in a relationship with at the time?

Now to be fair we all know that our relationships will have an influence over us, however for an individual who has experienced true growth, you will find that they pretty much remain similar regardless of who they are with. Yes, there will be compromise, and subtle changes, but the person will have established their own boundaries, through their own self-awareness and healthy needs, and will feel a lot more secure in who they are. (If, of course, there is more growth to be had, that person will be continuing the path of seeking inner wisdom and healing).

The difference is in an illusion situation is that you “take on the energy of the other person and subconsciously adapt to that”.  This in turn takes you away from yourself, so when the relationship ends, you are left with a hollow feeling inside and then often will pursue another relationship to fill the void.

We all want to be loved, and to feel secure, however whenever you find yourself single, and you continue to feel hollow over time, then another person’s energy will always fill that void, for a while; but it is not a permanent solution. And you will find your patterns repeat themselves.

“Hollow feelings of emptiness are not the same as loneliness, hollow feelings run far deeper than just being alone, and come from a place deep within you, and your life experiences”. 

You may have seen people be boisterous in one relationship, yet quieter and demurer in another. People will say “oh that person is just what he/she needed to settle them down”.

Yes, that can be the case, but the point is, is that once boisterous but now demure person being truly authentic, or is the sense of having that void filled feeding a continuing co-dependency pattern?  And is that new personality just an act to hide the insecurities that have not been identified and an act to be something that their partner wants?

For example, you often see a person not treat another well in one relationship yet be a puppy dog to their partner in another relationship.  How many of you have treated a person so well, but not had it reciprocated, then are heart broken when you see that person go into another relationship, and they treat that person better, and seem to be happy?

The illusion is, in fact, the new dynamic being played out. For example, it may mean that your ex-partner needs a strong person that mimics a mother or father figure, who puts them in their place, so they respond to that, as they would have as a child, and their new partner needs to feel authoritative in order to feel secure, so whilst it appears to be working for them, there, in fact, has been no true growth whatsoever, it is a mere illusion.

Your personal illusion in this instance to be healed, would be to ask yourself why you keep doing this, why you keep being attracted to the same kind of person, and the illusion to be broken through is, for you to not give so much, and to look at why you do. Then you are on a true path of growth, that is far richer than an illusion of a great relationship that your ex has created in order to feel safe and not face their own soul truths.

Becoming trapped into thinking about your ex-partner’s behaviour will keep you stuck in their illusion of which they have managed to cover up by a relationship that seemingly works on the surface but, through a co-dependent dynamic, hides their insecurities.

The way through to the Soul is through balance, so you see an illusion co-dependent relationship is to see it as a set of scales; one aspect is heavier than the other, so the other must give more energy in order to prop things up and create the illusion of balance.  A healthy relationship is one where two souls have found most of the balance, within themselves first, as an individual authentic soul and therefore one soul compliments the other.  The balance of energy and power is shared, and one is not dominant over the other.

This does not mean that an authentic soul is perfect, it simply means they know who they are, and have accepted all aspects of themselves, even their shadow self, and have found love of the self and wholeness through healing and self-acceptance. And, through that awareness, no longer feel empty or hollow, even without a relationship.

We are all on a path of growth, our patterns teach us what needs attention and healing and what is lacking.  Remember, too, to look for the achievement of growth and reward yourself and smile and be happy at how far that you have come!

Author: ©Debra Sinclair Psychic Medium Empath 2021 https://bestamericanpsychics.com/listing/debra-sinclair

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